Self-Awareness is where emotional intelligence begins. Until the individual becomes aware of his/her surroundings, how those experiences affect them, and individual values, beliefs and norms are established the individual will struggle to relate to others.

Self-awareness is recognizing how our own emotions influence our own behavior, affect the interactions with others, and if we have the potential to influence another person’s emotional state. Consider that:

  • Our emotions are in a constant state of change from one moment to the next.
  • You may experience multiple emotions at any one time.
  • Stress creates particular difficulty of emotional awareness and we are least likely to be conscious of and actively managing our emotions.
  • Stress creates mental blocks in cognition, inhibiting the ability to separate emotions from circumstance, limiting the ability to manage oneself, the situation, and to influence others.

Self-Awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, your strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Clarity of these perceptions can change based on environment – e.g. at work vs. at home. Self-Awareness is the gateway to understanding how other people perceive you, your attitude, and your behavior during social interactions.

“Without self-awareness one cannot lead himself, let
alone lead others.” – Allen Beck

The effects of Low and High levels of Self-Awareness

Low Level
  • Inability to Focus
  • Poor Listener
  • Excitable
  • Indecisive
  • Non-analytical
Outcomes of Low Level EI
  • Disconnected
  • Untrustworthy
  • Failure to Lead
  • Lack of Results
High Level
  • Controlled
  • Attentive
  • Calm
  • Measured
  • Logical
Outcomes of High Level EI
  • Source of Inspiration
  • Dependable
  • Emotional Commitment
  • Goal Achievement