Self-Management is the ability to regulate emotions and ultimately, your behavior. As competencies evolve one is able to control the impulses triggered by people and situations. Control over impulse is the ability to identify and repress the compulsion to do or say something that may not be appropriate – respond don’t react.

Every emotion conveys a message

In relationships, emotion and reason, on their own, are ineffective.
Emotions can provide drive, direction, and reason provides
organization — a way out of the conflict.

The effects of Low and High levels of Self-Management

Low Level
  • Explosive
  • Reactionary
  • Ineffective
  • Inefficient
  • Quits Easily
Outcomes of Low Level EI
  • Volatility
  • Unaccountable
  • Tension
  • Unapproachable
  • Negativity
High Level
  • Calm
  • Reassuring
  • Productive
  • Systematic
  • Committed
Outcomes of High Level EI
  • Stability
  • Ownership
  • Relief
  • Social Intelligence
  • Curious / Supportive

Developing Self-Management

1. Learning how to channel what is driving a negative emotion – blame, anger, fear, accusation, anxiety, absence of information
2. Tempering the control elements of managing and developing the influential elements of leading
3. Moderating the chaotic and unpredictable nature of emotion
4. Learning how to use emotions to organize
5. Developing resiliency during times of crisis

Self-Management = Recovery Time = Resiliency

The prominent need for Self-Management is the ability to recover from stressful or crisis situations — self-management is a measure of resilience.

Five Elements Make Up Self-Management

1. Self-control – recognition of emotions and regulating response
2. Trustworthiness – integrity and maintaining values and beliefs
3. Conscientiousness – ownership and accountability
4. Adaptability – change management
5. Resiliency – crisis recovery timeline